Book on dating in your 30s
Dating in your 30s might not sound like as much fun as it did in your 20s, but it certainly doesn’t have to be a chore.
Having survived the immature sagas of youth, you’re ready to hit your stride, relationship-wise.
“Every relationship needs to be 'serious',” someone said.
“When you get older every new date more and more reminds me of a job interview.” That being said, there are some real positives to dating in your thirties too.
I turned up a few minutes late for one date to find that the guy had already ordered and eaten dinner without me, and I booked myself on a climbing holiday with 14 fit men, only to discover halfway up the highest mountain in North Africa that they were all married.
While I did meet some really nice men, it was certainly not at the tortuous round of singles events, at which there were always more women than men and everyone had a sad, resigned look in their eyes.
Good thing I've learned to enjoy being by myself,” one person said.
And we've got only one rule: Stop looking at dating as a game or chore, and approach it with optimism and confidence. But here goes: The rest of us could learn a thing or two from the dating habits of 20-somethings.
‘Men want someone who is fertile but who doesn’t want children just yet,’ she continued.
‘So they want women in their late 20s or early 30s.
Dating is hard at any age, but even more so in your 30s. “You would think that people get better at treating each other well and mature emotionally as they age, but NOPE.” Another adds, “Lots and lots of unmatched swipes on Tinder.” But, perhaps the most common concern among those looking for love in their 30s is the amount of baggage people come with.
The playing field is narrower, your number of single friends is dwindling and everyone’s carrying around a whole lot more baggage. Taking to Reddit, droves of singletons in their thirties have been revealing what it’s really like to tackle the tricky world of dating. One user says, “Dating in your 30s is trying to find someone with the least amount of baggage (emotional, children, etc.), or at least less baggage than you.” “It's like sorting through a bargain bin of damaged goods,” another agrees.